As a holistic psychology expert, I've witnessed the profound impact that
nurturing our inner child can have on our emotional wellbeing. Our inner child
represents the essence of our early experiences, shaping our beliefs,
emotions, and behaviours. Unresolved childhood wounding can often stay
hidden within us, influencing our daily lives. The way we interact in our
relationships, our own inner voice, whether we adopt unhelpful coping
mechanisms or habits that we no longer serve our best interests.
Understanding and nurturing our inner child is a beautiful way to foster
personal growth and healing.
Understanding Our Inner Child:
The inner child represents the emotions, needs and experiences we had
during our formative years. Unresolved childhood traumas, neglect, or unmet
needs can result in the inner child carrying emotional wounding into
adulthood. These unresolved emotions can manifest as self-sabotaging
behaviours (ummm hello binge drinking, working until burn out or high levels
of perfectionism), repetitive relationship challenges or emotional distress.
Meetings your inner child with compassion, identifying what she needs and
meeting those needs or visualising giving her a big hug are all great places to
The Importance of Inner Child Healing:
1. Self-Awareness: Healing the inner child fosters self-awareness, allowing
us to recognise patterns and triggers rooted in childhood experiences.
Offering her understanding and compassion soothes the emotion attached to
those unmet needs and empowers us to respond rather than react to present
2. Emotional Healing: Addressing the wounds of our inner child enables
emotional healing. Acknowledging and validating past pain allows us to
release the emotional charge attached to those experiences and enables us to
move forward with greater insight and emotional freedom.
3. Improved Relationships: Bringing awareness to our inner child positively
impacts relationships. By understanding our triggers and emotional
responses, by offering ourselves compassion for the needs we had that went
unmet, we can build healthier connections in our adult life. We no longer need
to rely on our partner to soothe attachment wounds from childhood.
Practical Steps for Inner Child Healing:
1. Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion by acknowledging and
validating your inner child's feelings. Speak kindly to yourself and offer the
same nurturing care to a visualised younger version of yourself that you would
to your own child.
2. Inner Dialogue: Engage in inner dialogue exercises. Write letters to your
younger self or inner child, offering love, understanding, and reassurance.
This helps bridge the gap between past and present selves.
3. Inner Child Visualisation: Visualisation techniques can be powerful.
Visualise your inner child and wrap your arms around her or imagine kissing
her forehead. What does she need? Try some activities that bring her joy and
healing. Spend time in nature, engage in creative pursuits, or simply offer your
inner child moments of guilt-free playfulness and relaxation.
4. Therapeutic Support: Consider seeking professional guidance. Holistic
therapists, counsellors, or psychologists specialising in inner child work can
provide tailored techniques and support your healing journey.
5. Mindfulness and Meditation: Cultivate mindfulness practices to connect
with your present emotions. Meditation can help you observe thoughts and
emotions without judgment, fostering healing and acceptance.
Healing your inner child is a profound and transformative journey. It's about
acknowledging past pain, embracing vulnerability and nurturing yourself
toward emotional wholeness. By tending to our inner child with compassion
and understanding, we pave the way for profound healing, empowering us to
live more authentically and wholeheartedly in the present.
By: Charlotte Lewis