We drank fresh juice, feasted on a buffet that dreams are made of (everything from mini cheesecakes to fruit salads and pastries galore) and we listened to the panel discuss


‘What are the issues facing women today?’

Is technology helping or hindering ?’

And is ‘Having it all what modern women want ?’


Some hard facts were brought up by Clemmie .....
One in 7 girls in developing countries are married before the age of 15 .....
Only 20% of senior management rolls are held by women in this country,
And Only 22.8% of national parliamentarians are women.


So, although celebrating international women’s day is a major step forward, we still have got a long way to go globally, to reach a place of equality.


Clemmie said that she finds it frustrating to think that she raises her sons and daughter as equals, only to believe that when they eventually go off to work they are likely to be treated differently because of their sex. Thankfully more companies, like Superdrug are now celebrating and embracing diversity, inclusion and equality, and this is the start of a major change in the workplace for women, and one that hopefully our children will benefit from. Clemmie also advised that women stand their ground and own motherhood whilst at the workplace, being firm in decisions and asking for what you believe you are entitled to.


Social media and today’s technology was discussed and bought both positive and negatives to the panelist’s lives. The fact an entire business can be run on your phone on Instagram obviously being a huge plus, but that screen times are now going through the roof, and mindless scrolling is taking over, with constant comparisons to others, and images of perfection, often causing us to feel inadequate or anxious. Dr Pixie also mentioned the fact our teens now spend most of their time online scrolling or gaming (something that I really can’t get my head round with my own teenage son) sitting in a room chatting on headsets, seriously what has happened to meeting up at the local park? What is it going to be like in another 10 years time?


But do women want to have it all ? A resounding yes, why not? But also remembering it’s the everyday things that are really important, putting your kiddies to bed, knowing they are safe and warm, enjoying a cup of tea and a Mr Kipling cake and watching Netflix (thx Jen for keeping it real)


Sisters, Mothers and friends gave our panelist’s inspiration, drive and support in life, females boosting each other up, sharing experiences, celebrating and supporting each other. All pushing each other forward and inspiring women to ‘have it all’ Instagram followers Being a strong community of support and drive for our panelist’s too.


I was horrified to learn that women spend a third of their lives in menopause, yes really!!!! and on top of that we have pregnancy, child birth and periods to deal with. Pretty good job that we are all lifting each other up and having super power coffee mornings like this one to get us through.


With also a chance for some pampering and the opportunity to get your boobs checked with coppafeel, Superdrug really did have this event fully covered. I left (with not only an absolutely amazing goodie bag that my daughter and I have had great fun rummaging through) but also hope and reassurance that both my daughters are growing up in a very different world to the one our mothers and grandmothers grew up in, feeling hopeful thay one day they will work for a company like Superdrug who are empowering women and supporting equality.


Thanks for an absolutely amazing morning Superdrug, and MM for bringing us together and once again driving home that women have the Superpower .....and we must never forget it!


Photos by the fab @kellyreevesphotography

Aveda Lifestyle Salon and Spa, Covent Garden



WRITTEN by @one.busy.mother

At the amazing Aveda Lifestyle Salon, sipping on Prosecco (why not?) sat with a massive bunch of beautiful mamas and babies, we listened to a panel of hair experts and pro mamas (MM Jenny, Emily @earnyourroast, Jade @mother_of_all_adventures and Dr Mayoni @drmayoniclinic talking all things hair and how pregnancy and hormones can leave us feeling pretty crap and our hair looking generally a bit shit really!

Mike of Aveda (@michalelendon @avedauk ) ... who has over 15 years experience and 35,000 haircuts in the bag ) said the link between our hair and emotions is pretty strong, so when our hair changes post pregnancy we need to learn how to work with the hair we have now and gain back control of owning our new dos to help us to regain our confidence.

So why do we loose so much hair after baby ?
I know for me, during pregnancy my hair was lovely and thick, it grew loads and felt really soft and healthy. Then a few months after I gave birth (mine was worse with my daughters ?? Anyone else ?) it fell out by the handful, it sat really flat and felt dull and lifeless! At times I felt like a coconut had more hair than me. When you already feel like your belly is like a deflated balloon, your boobs are drooping down to your waist, haemorrhoids hanging out your bum (sorry too much ) and a newborn baby hanging off your hip, the hair is like the final straw!


It’s actually completely normal to loose hair post baby, annoying as it is. During pregnancy our normal hair loss process slows right down and we hang on to extra hair, so when our hormone levels return to normal we loose that extra hair along with our normal daily amount (20- 100 hairs) so it seems like a lot. It seems that it happens more when we wash it, but that is simply because our hair is down and being washed, so if you’ve had your mum bun in a few days and then you take it out to wash it, all that hair that’s been stuck up in your bun will come out in the shower, making it seem like loads. I had times when I thought I would have no hair left at all.


You need to carry on washing and styling your hair as normal. Keep your scalp healthy and clean, using good products like Aveda ( the team are happy to advise you and will give you a free scalp and hair health consultation if you pop in)


Regular cuts, but not 6 weekly, as despite what we are led to believe, this does not encourage hair growth, it just blunts the ends making hair look healthier, and thicker


So do yourself a favour AND


Speak to a professional...


Although it’s very easy to grab the nearest hair dye from boots for a DIY Jobbie in desperation, find a nice salon and someone who can help advise on colour and style. See it as an opportunity to grab yourself some time, let someone look after you and make you feel better about yourself, even if you have to take your baby along with you. You will still leave feeling better.......Self care and new hair !!


Our hormones fluctuate so much during pregnancy and post partum, it’s inevitable that it will play havoc with our skin, hair, bodies. Dr Mayoni stressed the importantance to eat well and be kind to yourself during but also after pregnancy.


This is not the time to deprive your body and put yourself on to a restrictive diet but a time to really ensure you are eating nutrient dense, healthy foods.


Vitamin D is vital during pregnancy and after for breastfeeding, and even after that, so continue with your supplements, also we found out today that Mushrooms are a good source!! Get your mushrooms cooking ladies.


I have looked in to some other foods to eat in abundance post partum to help keep you running nicely and the locks looking fab...


PROTEIN
Fish, Eggs, Nuts, Legumes and seeds.
ESSENTIAL FATTY ACIDS
Walnuts, chia seeds, Flaxseeds, Salmon, Sardines
VITAMIN A Sources
Beef, Sweet Potatoes, Kale and Spinach
VITAMIN C sources
Kiwi, Orange, Strawberries, Broccoli
B VITAMINS
Almonds, Black and Pinto beans, Lentils, Turkey, Eggs, Avocado and yoghurt.


Supplement if necessary, find one containing iron, folate, zinc and magnesium. I particularly LOVE Wild Nutrition (@wildnutritionltd ) as they are all food grown supplements and therefore easier for the body to metabolise.


Jade (mum of 5... Supermum) found mixing up her hairstyles and colour during and after pregnancy was a good way to make her feel better, and boost confidence. Emily said she found resuming exercise did wonders for her self esteem and finding herself again. ( oh and both agreed to stay away from the home colouring kits! )


So although we may all be a little greyer, slightly thinner on top, feeling a little less like our Pre-mum selves, if you can get yourself to the salon and have a nice fresh cut and colour, use the best products for your hair at home, and make the best of what you have... mix up your parting from time to time, work out those hair muscles, soon you will feel like you are back in the game with your hair 💪🏻. Try to remember that once your hormones balance out again your hair will return to its normal shedding cycle. If you can try to keep on top of eating healthily, boosting your mood with some exercise (if you can, follow Emily for some motivation ) releasing those happy endorphins, and take time out when you need to, as in go and enjoy some time in the salon chair, You DESERVE it, you will start to feel more like you again.


Thanks for my goody bag Aveda .... how I love a goody bag :) can’t wait to try my products out later too.

Are you one of those people who just doesn’t know what to wear on a daily basis, plagued with the debate in your head of “do I like this, is it me, is it too safe, is it too daring..?” SAME! Did you then find that having a kid/s added another layer on top of these daily questions... “Do I look too mumsy, do I look like I’m trying to be a ‘cool’ mum..?”
Yep, after the baby-vom clothes have been able to be disposed of and normal dressing can resume, WTF do you wear, especially back to work? Trying to find the balance between being true to yourself and your style, and then conforming to what you ‘should’ wear is real.
Firstly, I hate conforming and I don’t feel anyone should do anything based on what they ‘should’ do if it compromises your self-worth FULL STOP. I went back to work for the same company and after coming to terms with my own identity crisis after having a child (we all go through that right?) I realised I then had to grapple with my colleagues perception of me as well. All very well if you’ve (finally) adjusted, but what if your work colleagues haven’t. The crunch for me was being asked if I was having a mid-life crisis after getting my nose re-pierced... I’m 31 FFS !!!!
I’ve had a long, fun career in the fashion industry, travelling, shooting, events, party-ing. Obvs having a baby and moving out of London, my life and priorities are different now... But why should you feel you have to prove yourself to others? Yes I’d rather go to a Mini Rodini sample sale now over a Stella McCartney one (don’t get me started on not having any money either!) but a reminder in any industry, that your colleague with children, shouldn’t just be defined by that label. The ‘old, fun me’ still exists, but you’re always going to have the newbies who only know you as the Mum who has to run for the train everyday to get to nursery pick-up on time.....
In this confusing climate of societal expectations placed on you and your body during motherhood, it’s no wonder it’s confusing. On one hand you’re being told to “dress like a Mum” eg. sensible, respectable, covered up to hide your Mum-bod, VS the unrealistic “​ ​#​goals” fed to us via role models such as the Jenners and Kardashians of Motherhood. Stick to your gut, don’t compare, keep to your style + don’t lose your identity (as well as the lie-ins, energy and sanity of having children!) ..Be proud of YOU, your body + your unique style, don’t worry about anyone else’s view on you!

Lucy Werner, Founder of Thewern.com @wernchat 
A consultancy to help startups and small businesses. ​

Why a dose of self-hype is as important as self-help

• A brief journey of being self-employed and having a baby -

Before I had my first baby, I ran my own company with a team which I tried to manage whilst taking mat leave. In parts, I really enjoyed still being able to use that part of my brain, but there were also moments, when the choice was taken away - such as having to write a press release two weeks post-partum - that were difficult.


For numerous reasons the business wasn’t flourishing without me (another post for another time on why getting a co-founder can be a great idea). Originally, I had planned to return to work full time at three months using shared parental leave, but when the time came, I wasn’t ready.


At six months, I still only felt ready to be back part time and immediately had to make the remaining team redundant.  At my lowest point, I remember sitting in a coffee shop feeling like a failure and ugly crying quite publicly. I wanted so badly to create a PR business that served small businesses, but I couldn’t make it profitable and be the Mum I wanted.


I then threw myself into house selling / buying and just making ends meet and before I knew it – 2018 had gone. My business had just existed and a whole year had passed me by. I’d ignored my own advice of having a communications plan, promoting myself and any direction. I hadn’t got anywhere because I hadn’t even put in my mind where I wanted to go.


The media industry basically shuts down over Christmas, enough was enough, so I took a fortnight off.  I used the excuse of letting my French mother-in-law and partner have some quality time together and locked myself away. I created a vision board, I completed the No Bull School end of year review and I set myself goals and tasks for 2019. Then most importantly I started to share them.


I started to pitch myself for guest posts, speaker panels, sharing more tips to back up my knowledge on my social channels and other witterings to hopefully give a glimpse into my personality. I joined four different networking groups, I’ve literally never been so busy, but I’ve never made so many contacts and had so many ideas. I hyped myself to everyone and anyone that would listen about what I wanted to do. I overhauled my Instagram with a rebrand and started taking baby steps towards my five-year goals.




From 12 months of being a work ghost to hyping myself for just one month - I secured three guest panels, three blog posts, grew my audience, made some lovely new friends (mostly through Mother’s Meetings obvs) and even secured a business book deal! All of which whilst doesn’t dramatically change my business day-to-day are part of my long-term business plan. It’s a marathon not a sprint for sure.


If you had told me, even in November, that I would get these things I wouldn’t have believed you. So, my lesson learnt, and to pass on to you ladies is learn to self-hype. It feels scary to put yourself back out there, but as soon as you step out of the shadows, I’m testament that amazing things can happen for you personally and professionally.


Lucy Werner, Founder of Thewern.com @wernchat
A consultancy to help startups and small businesses. ​

BY  koalastinka ✪ 

February’s new MM members kick started the week off with a very busy, very buzzy, coffee morn.


The Lioness of life coaching, Danielle Mckenna and MM’s Jenny Scott, welcomed all the mamas (some very very new mamas) and soon got on the way with some pointers for growing our self confidence.


Shoreditch House library was packed, literally bursting, some scared, some excited and some ‘not sure if I should be here?’ mums. After a quick little warm up exercise from Danielle, all of us couldn’t stop talking and the room was filled with energy ( a few baby screams and some boobs out action) the room was alive and it was pretty clear we were all glad we were there.


WE ALL have that annoying little inner critic of a voice, every single one of us, yep even the mums that look like they are SO together. We are all constantly doubting and pulling ourselves apart, on everything from our looks, to parenting skills, relationships and careers. This became very clear once we all started talking.


None of us had any trouble writing three negative things that we said to ourselves that morning. I’ll be honest I could’ve gone on to an extra sheet of paper.


It made me feel quite sad to hear some of the listings of doom when Danielle read them out. Really sad actually.
The energy had completely changed in the room. In fact it felt ...Flat as a pancake :(


Here I was in a room full of women, all totally different, some so stylish or with beautiful skin, gorgeous smiles, friendly and warm, and yet here they all were saying they were ‘too fat, too shouty, not good enough, too loud, too quiet, can’t do it’.


Wtf.


I am writing this like I hadn’t told myself anything negative ... well let me tell you I have the biggest arse hole of an inner critic, I rip myself to pieces daily....Even the morning of the meeting, anxiously wondering who I’ll know, will people think I’m this or that, will I blurt something out embarrassing blah blah blah. I am very good at appearing confident when inside I’m actually riddled with self critical ramblings .... Anyway....


We all had to close our eyes and picture this annoying inner voice as a person.


In fact do it now .....


What does yours look like? I imagined mine as the little red gremlin emoji 👹....most women saw themselves, the lady next to me ....pictured a skinny man... which keeps making me giggle. Picturing this inner voice as a person and connecting with them, can actually make it easier to control.


Next up was the chance for us to connect with our INNER LEADER... now listen up as this is the girl (or boy) you need to know ..


My Inner leader ... well she is basically Oprah, she is one bad ass mother, full of sass and confidence. She is telling me that I am wise, compassionate and helping me fill my life with purpose and clarity.


I pictured meeting her at my safe place (where’s yours? Mine is a beautiful, sunny beach ...I’m a cancerian, I love to be by the water) wth birds and butterflies and warm sun on my face.


So ok, are you with me ???


When that gremlin pops up, STOP, breathe, put your feet firmly on the ground and imagine being at your safe place.


Picture your inner leader coming to you there and telling you, ‘girl, you have got this, you can do this, you have the authority to live your life the way you want to, the power and the strength to be who you want to be,’ or if you can’t go that far, even just giving you the reassurance that they are there, when you need them.


Danielle taught me that in one hour🤷🏻‍♀️ .... made me think I probably should’ve seen a life coach about 20 years ago 😂
I’ve only been doing it for one day but I’m liking my little meet up with Oprah at the beach. She’s got my back.


As mums, you can really loose yourself can’t you? Putting everyone else’s needs above your own. Spinning a million plates.
Never giving yourself any time, feeling guilty when you do. Over time this can knock our confidence, which in turn can contribute to us missing out on opportunities, goals and dreams. All because of that little gremlin inner critic of an arse, but you have the power to change that.


You just have to find your inner leader


You deserve happiness, you deserve ‘you time’ however you can find it. You deserve to live your life how you want to, you have the power to change your life, you have the power to silence your inner critic. You need to practise self love, and self care.


I know it’s easier said then done, but just try it. Practise meeting your leader.

Tell yourself this ....
I CAN
I WILL
I AM
I DESERVE

Find what you love, even for just 20 mins, a run, a bath, some meditation, yoga or maybe an insta scroll, a cuddle with your kids / friend /partner ...do whatever makes you feel grounded, and breathe


I absolutely loved meeting you all, and just for the record, all of the mums I had the pleasure of speaking to, I could easily now say three things about you that I thought made you flipping great,


You are BRAVE
You are BEAUTIFUL
You made me feel WELCOME


So Thank you.


When women support women powerful things can happen. We are in this together and we can help each other grow.



I look forward so much to meeting you again at the next MM.


Danielle and Jenny thank you, I will leave you all with this ....

@one.busy.mother for Mother’s Meetings.

​Networking @mothersmeetings stylee


Not a manky conference room in sight, in fact quite the opposite, how cool is Town Hall hotel and apartments ?
No awkward intros or cringe moments, within minutes of my arrival, the huge room was full of women, babies, and cute little toddlers. Do you know what I find so cool about these events is that everyone speaks to each other, people walk in and say hi, just mums wanting a nice chat and some time out. There were loads of MM virgins, some of which had babies honestly fresh out the womb. HATS off girls, I mean seriously, to even get out the house, let alone go on your own to a massive event like that I think you are Brave AF.


We started this MM with the calming voice of @ayishacarrington_(aka the spiritual G) relaxing us all with a little meditation. Loosing any anxiety or post school run stress, and getting us all in the mood to relax and listen to the powerhouse panel of mamas Jenny had brought together for us. Jen welcomed us all and covered the fact that as mamas we are all constantly bogged down with pressure. That we shouldn’t feel guilty for the odd time / chance we get to sit down, with a cuppa and just be.


So with our cuppas, one by one, the panel took to the mic to share with us some unwanky, cringe free networking tips, online and offline.


Kicking it off @juniepoonie queen of the bespoke cards, stationary and seriously sassy prints told us to ‘Be brave.
When you get told no by someone, it’s not the end, keep going, don’t worry, someone will say yes as Someone will LOVE what you do.
Find those people. Stick with them and BE YOURSELF’


Next up Lucy from @wernpr, glowing with pregnancy glow.... Lucy encouraged us all to ‘provide value with everyone you interact with, and continue to build on relationships. Work off those online and offline vibes and remember that anyone can do anything. Publicise you, be you, You have nothing to loose. Go for it.’


Keri @doiikeamother in all of her pink beauty, a self confessed mum life disruptor, who likes to show mother’s that it’s not the end of a life you had but seeing it more of a ‘rebirth’ when you’ve had kids, said we should


‘Welcome contact and new connections, ignore the fact it seems women are channeled to be mean girls and out to get each other, and instead focus on boosting each other up, welcome new opportunity, be fearless and reserve judgement’


Helen @notaboutthekids told us how she likes to
‘Share love, shower compliments like confetti, build and work on connections and friendships. Keep in touch with your people, chat, have coffees....build yourself a COMMUNITY stop telling yourself you can’t... you can and age shouldn’t stop you either’


(flipping go girl.. also can I have your anti ageing secrets as when you said you were in your 40s I nearly choked on my caffeine.)


So there you have it. Some majorly positive kick ass, attitudes and advice from mamas who are doing all the above and reaping the rewards. I’m excited to follow them on their journeys now, watch them grow. In fact all of you mamas I met this is just the beginning or the journey, right?


We went on to ‘network’ (basically chat, laugh and share stories with more confidence than if we hadn’t started off with a standing power pose.......Anyone else been wandering round the house like it since? My kids are like mums doing that thing with her arms up again.. then they really think I’ve lost it when I shout YOU’RE SAFE HERE, the teen is like please don’t do that when my mates come over)
.... mmmmm watch me,


We played some human bingo. I was starting convos with women I’ve never met ‘just tell me do you have matching underwear on’ or ‘ffs who’s got bloody twins or sliders?’ Good starting points for a convo tho!


I met so many mums who I honestly was blown away by there stories, ideas and instagram showreel, not to mention their cute babies. Most importantly I can’t wait to see them all again. I have loved looking at everyone’s instagrams and Learning more about the ladies I met ( yep Jen bit of husband stalking ... interiors too im a sucker for an interior stalk) anyway I left feeling like this ...


Brave, fearless and with a buzz similar to that of a night out (from what I can remember of having nights out ) minus the hangover and with some new mates that I didn’t meet chatting drunk shit to in a bog. Just really nice people. Oh and I didn’t feel like I networked at all, I just had a nice time, and followed some pretty cool mamas on insta.


See you at the next one ladies KEEP GOING, stick with your tribe, boost each other up, be yourselves, as you are all bloody fab ....and remember WE have got this! Sisters are doing it for themselves !!!!!!


Becci
@one.busy.mother